As a partner in a couple, you may wonder…
- Does your relationship have you wondering if you’ve chosen the right partner?
- Do you worry about whether you’ll ever feel a connection to your partner again?
- Does that voice inside your head say, “I don’t know what I want anymore.”
- “Is this person even right for me anymore? Do I even like my partner anymore?”
- Do you feel misunderstood, insignificant, undervalued, unappreciated, and disconnected in your relationship?
As a partner in a couple, you may wonder…
- Does your relationship have you wondering if you’ve chosen the right partner?
- Do you worry about whether you’ll ever feel a connection to your partner again?
- Does that voice inside your head say, “I don’t know what I want anymore.”
- “Is this person even right for me anymore? Do I even like my partner anymore?”
- Do you feel misunderstood, insignificant, undervalued, unappreciated, and disconnected in your relationship?
When relationships get hard, so often the challenge is non constructive communication patterns that lead to “stuckedness,” loneliness and confusion. Partners in the relationship have stopped talking to each other in a way that maintains connection and they’ve started to make some assumptions. As these assumptions accumulate in the form of arguments or even quiet, unspoken hurts, or painful body language patterns, communication breaks down and that sense of trust and friendship in the relationship is burdened.
Another pattern that often occurs in strained relationships is that couples may let other things in life get in the way. They prioritize work, hobbies, other relationships and/or their children over their partner. This means their relationship becomes 3rd or 4th on the list of priorities and the relationship ends up suffering. Again, people start to feel or believe that they matter less. This undervalued feeling hurts intimacy and dampens the expressions of love languages that inspire couples to feel great in partnership.
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As you struggle to make the relationship work, you may find yourself asking, “If only I could…”
On a typical day, you may wake up next to your partner but feel a lack of energy and tenderness. You can tell that conversation is strained between the two of you. In troubled relationships, the morning routine may lack intimacy or if it’s there, it just doesn’t feel right. Things may be ok, but you’d describe your relationship connection as “blah” or “there’s just not much there.” Interaction with your partner doesn’t feel positive, you struggle with communication, and you can feel the distance.
You focus more on work, or your kids, and you find yourself syncing up less and less with your partner. One of you may feel shut down and become distant, and/or a partner might become more demanding or desperate. Either way, a disconnect begins, and you may begin to feel overly stressed, tired, and emotionally spent but afraid of facing the reality of a struggling relationship. It’s scary and confusing for so many in committed relationships.
When relationships get hard, so often the challenge is non constructive communication patterns that lead to “stuckedness,” loneliness and confusion. Partners in the relationship have stopped talking to each other in a way that maintains connection and they’ve started to make some assumptions. As these assumptions accumulate in the form of arguments or even quiet, unspoken hurts, or painful body language patterns, communication breaks down and that sense of trust and friendship in the relationship is burdened.
Another pattern that often occurs in strained relationships is that couples may let other things in life get in the way. They prioritize work, hobbies, other relationships and/or their children over their partner. This means their relationship becomes 3rd or 4th on the list of priorities and the relationship ends up suffering. Again, people start to feel or believe that they matter less. This undervalued feeling hurts intimacy and dampens the expressions of love languages that inspire couples to feel great in partnership.
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As you struggle to make the relationship work, you may find yourself asking, “If only I could…”
On a typical day, you may wake up next to your partner but feel a lack of energy and tenderness. You can tell that conversation is strained between the two of you. In troubled relationships, the morning routine may lack intimacy or if it’s there, it just doesn’t feel right. Things may be ok, but you’d describe your relationship connection as “blah” or “there’s just not much there.” Interaction with your partner doesn’t feel positive, you struggle with communication, and you can feel the distance.
You focus more on work, or your kids, and you find yourself syncing up less and less with your partner. One of you may feel shut down and become distant, and/or a partner might become more demanding or desperate. Either way, a disconnect begins, and you may begin to feel overly stressed, tired, and emotionally spent but afraid of facing the reality of a struggling relationship. It’s scary and confusing for so many in committed relationships.
All Couples Struggle With Conflict
All Couples Struggle With Conflict
After 40 years of research, relationship expert John Gottman has found that “contempt” is one of the strongest predictors of divorce.
“Identifying contempt is one of the first steps towards repairing your relationship,” says Gottman.
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Managing Conflict In Relationships
Additionally, he explains that 67% of new parents experience a dramatic drop in relationship satisfaction during the first three years of their child’s life. In the end, discord is normal in relationships, but what really strains them to the point of breaking is a lack of communication. Moreover, Dr. John Gottman explains that, “69% of marital conflicts are perpetual problems,” meaning struggle is a part of relationships and is not something to try and eradicate, but rather something that couples need to learn to manage as a healthy part of the relationship.
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In other words, disagreements are completely normal and to be expected in relationships. Trying to get rid of arguments and conflict altogether creates the opposite result – such an approach can lead to far more stress and disruption between partners. By accepting that your relationship will hit road bumps and being proactive in learning how to manage relationship discord, you and your partner can achieve long lasting connection, love, and joy.
After 40 years of research, relationship expert John Gottman has found that “contempt” is one of the strongest predictors of divorce.
“Identifying contempt is one of the first steps towards repairing your relationship,” says Gottman.
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Managing Conflict In Relationships
Additionally, he explains that 67% of new parents experience a dramatic drop in relationship satisfaction during the first three years of their child’s life. In the end, discord is normal in relationships, but what really strains them to the point of breaking is a lack of communication.
Moreover, Dr. John Gottman explains that, “69% of marital conflicts are perpetual problems,” meaning struggle is a part of relationships and is not something to try and eradicate, but rather something that couples need to learn to manage as a healthy part of the relationship.
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In other words, disagreements are completely normal and to be expected in relationships. Trying to get rid of arguments and conflict altogether creates the opposite result – such an approach can lead to far more stress and disruption between partners. By accepting that your relationship will hit road bumps and being proactive in learning how to manage relationship discord, you and your partner can achieve long lasting connection, love, and joy.
Couples Counseling Helps Reconnect Partners
“So many couples struggle.
It’s not easy to create time for relaxation, family, work, personal space, contribution, friendships and a committed relationship. Yet, there are proven, even simple ways for you to improve your committed relationship.
There are great tools available to feel seen, more loved, accepted, appreciated and understood. Through Couples Counseling, partners can experience more connection and joy than they thought possible.”
~ Lynn Lyon, LCSW ~
Ignite Passion & Friendship
If you and your partner desire positive, lasting change and have a strong willingness/hunger to create or recreate a relationship that feels truly fulfilling, alive, connected, and fueled with kindness and love, couples therapy can help.
Relationship therapy helps transform negative communication into a constructive, deeper connection between partners, and changes the dynamic of the relationship. Through this practice, partners discover tools to help them give more fully and receive more fully. They improve communication and find new, fun, and even novel ways to ignite passion and friendship.
Renewed Desire
With couples counseling, you can expect a greater level of friendship and intimacy as well as feeling more seen and heard in your relationship. Working with a couples therapist arms couples with powerful tools to enhance connection and a renewed desire to be in the relationship. Partners learn ways to create sacred time just for them, apart from the distractions of daily life and responsibilities of the world. Couples therapy can truly inspire people to be better with themselves, their partners, and their communities.
“So many couples struggle.
It’s not easy to create time for relaxation, family, work, personal space, contribution, friendships and a committed relationship. Yet, there are proven, even simple ways for you to improve your committed relationship.
There are great tools available to feel seen, more loved, accepted, appreciated and understood. Through Couples Counseling, partners can experience more connection and joy than they thought possible.”
~ Lynn Lyon, LCSW ~
Ignite Passion & Friendship
If you and your partner desire positive, lasting change and have a strong willingness/hunger to create or recreate a relationship that feels truly fulfilling, alive, connected, and fueled with kindness and love, couples therapy can help.
Relationship therapy helps transform negative communication into a constructive, deeper connection between partners, and changes the dynamic of the relationship. Through this practice, partners discover tools to help them give more fully and receive more fully. They improve communication and find new, fun, and even novel ways to ignite passion and friendship.
Renewed Desire
With couples counseling, you can expect a greater level of friendship and intimacy as well as feeling more seen and heard in your relationship. Working with a couples therapist arms couples with powerful tools to enhance connection and a renewed desire to be in the relationship. Partners learn ways to create sacred time just for them, apart from the distractions of daily life and responsibilities of the world. Couples therapy can truly inspire people to be better with themselves, their partners, and their communities.
Working With Lynn
Healthy Communication
For more than a decade, Lynn has shed light on relationship challenges and wounds and has provided tools and solutions to couples on how to create a healthy, more loving and more vibrant, honest, and richly intimate relationship. A key part of her approach is to help partners express their longings and desires in ways that are healthy. Lynn helps people develop a greater capacity to love more fully and experience more enjoyment and ease in the relationship. Lynn gives couples the ability to manage conflict proactively and respectfully, by examining the layers of each relationship in order to help couples enhance friendship, shared meaning, intimacy, and genuine curiosity.
Up-level Your Connection
If you are trying to discern if this relationship can truly improve or you deeply desire to transform the partnership to begin experiencing more love and joy and peace, Lynn would love to help you. Lynn strongly encourages each partner to address their own blind spots and to learn new ways they can up-level their own sharing and responding to bring greater connection and comfort. A key part of her process with couples is to reduce blaming and increase one’s identification of challenges/beliefs that impact the relationship, ensuring both partners are really open and available to be confronted with patterns that may be inhibiting connection and a felt sense of love and joy.
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Research-backed Methods
Research-backed Methods
Using the principles, teachings, and practices of Imago Relationships, learnings from the Gottman Institute and The Couples Institute, and other highly respected couples therapists/researchers, Lynn helps break down the visible and invisible walls separating or distancing you and your partner. She will help you and your significant other hear each other again, make eye contact again, feel seen again, feel tenderness and joy again, and transform your communication and relationship for the better. Couples end up feeling more motivated and excited to work with each other when they work with Lynn.
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Couples Counseling Works Between Sessions
Couples Counseling Works Between Sessions
Lynn’s approach not only works in session but in between sessions. She will teach you and your partner couples practices to help you use what you learned during relationship therapy sessions. These practices include finding ways to get to know your partner and carving out time for each other. This approach creates more novelty leaving you and your partner feeling more connected and happier for the long term.
Healthy Communication
For more than a decade, Lynn has shed light on relationship challenges and wounds and has provided tools and solutions to couples on how to create a healthy, more loving and more vibrant, honest, and richly intimate relationship. A key part of her approach is to help partners express their longings and desires in ways that are healthy.
Lynn helps people develop a greater capacity to love more fully and experience more enjoyment and ease in the relationship. Lynn gives couples the ability to manage conflict proactively and respectfully, by examining the layers of each relationship in order to help couples enhance friendship, shared meaning, intimacy, and genuine curiosity.
Up-level Your Connection
If you are trying to discern if this relationship can truly improve or you deeply desire to transform the partnership to begin experiencing more love and joy and peace, Lynn would love to help you. Lynn strongly encourages each partner to address their own blind spots and to learn new ways they can up-level their own sharing and responding to bring greater connection and comfort.
A key part of her process with couples is to reduce blaming and increase one’s identification of challenges/beliefs that impact the relationship, ensuring both partners are really open and available to be confronted with patterns that may be inhibiting connection and a felt sense of love and joy.
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Research-backed Methods
Research-backed Methods
Using the principles, teachings, and practices of Imago Relationships, learnings from the Gottman Institute and The Couples Institute, and other highly respected couples therapists/researchers, Lynn helps break down the visible and invisible walls separating or distancing you and your partner.
She will help you and your significant other hear each other again, make eye contact again, feel seen again, feel tenderness and joy again, and transform your communication and relationship for the better. Couples end up feeling more motivated and excited to work with each other when they work with Lynn.
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Couples Counseling Works Between Sessions
Couples Counseling Works Between Sessions
Lynn’s approach not only works in session but in between sessions. She will teach you and your partner couples practices to help you use what you learned during relationship therapy sessions.
These practices include finding ways to get to know your partner and carving out time for each other. This approach creates more novelty leaving you and your partner feeling more connected and happier for the long term.
You may have questions about Couples Therapy…
Lynn offers free 15 minute consultations.
Call (704) 345-3777 or click the button below to get started and see if Couples Counseling with Lynn is right for you.
Lynn offers free 15 minute consultations.
Call (704) 345-3777 or click the button below to get started and see if Couples Counseling with Lynn is right for you.